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About Unfinished Loops, Emotional Urgency, and Learning to Let Go

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Introduction Some things never fully leave you: a song you played on repeat, a place where you had a perfect afternoon, a conversation that ended before it could really finish. There are moments that sit quietly in the background, resurfacing when you least expect them. Sometimes they fade. Other times, they return with full intensity, demanding attention long after you thought you had moved on. I have always felt things deeply. When I connect with someone, I absorb the details: the way their voice changes when they are excited, the way their expressions shift when they are thinking, the small habits they don’t even realise they have. My memories are built from these fragments, and once they are there, they don’t easily disappear. For a long time, I assumed everyone experienced emotions this way, but I have learned that not everyone carries the past so vividly. Some people process feelings more gradually. Some don’t revisit moments in high definition. Some are able to let things go nat...
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Spoiler Alert: I’m Not ‘Too Much,’ I Just Have ADHD

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Introduction   For years, I struggled with certain patterns in my life that I couldn’t fully explain. There was an impulsive streak in my decisions, challenges with focus, and an underlying feeling of being “different” that I couldn’t quite put my finger on. Recently, though, I received an answer that has reshaped my perspective: ADHD. This diagnosis didn’t come out of the blue. It’s the result of a series of realisations over the last few years, incremental steps that gradually brought me closer to understanding what was going on in my mind. Looking back, there were pivotal experiences and changes that led me to seek answers and recognise that my mind operates a bit differently. Some of these realisations came from times when I felt particularly vulnerable or introspective, moments that shed light on behaviours I’d always taken for granted. While the journey wasn’t always easy, each step brought me closer to clarity. The Path to Diagnosis   I didn’t arrive at this diagnosis o...
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The Unhinged Series: Navigating Life's Needs with Sims Bars, Grindr and The Ethical Slut

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"People are not things; they are not objects to be used. People are beings to be appreciated." — The Ethical Slut by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy
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What the Pandemic, a Nature Retreat, and ADE Left Behind: A Dance Between Solitude and Connection

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There are moments in life that compel us to confront parts of ourselves we've long overlooked. For me, one such moment was a relationship I once believed encompassed everything I needed. Meeting someone who illuminated my world made me feel seen and appreciated in ways I hadn't experienced before. Yet, as the initial excitement waned, I found myself in a space that felt increasingly confined—like two people trying to fit into a room that kept shrinking. When the pandemic hit, we were locked together—not just physically but emotionally—in a dynamic that oscillated between comfort and confinement. The constant closeness, initially soothing to my introverted nature, began to feel suffocating. I felt a deep need for solitude, a chance to breathe and reconnect with myself. Expressing this need was met with resistance, leaving me feeling guilty for wanting something as fundamental as personal space. This, however, was only one of many instances where I found myself giving up essenti...
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From Nice to Kind: An ISFP’s Journey Toward Authenticity

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  Exploring the Myers-Briggs Framework (or the life hack I try to use to make sense of human complexity) I’ve always been fascinated by the complexities of human personality. One tool I’ve found insightful is the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI). For those unfamiliar, the MBTI is a personality framework that categorizes individuals into one of 16 personality types based on preferences in how we perceive the world and make decisions. While it’s impossible to capture the full depth of human emotions and experiences in just 16 categories—it would be silly to think we could—it provides a helpful starting point for self-reflection and understanding others. Understanding the ISFP Personality According to the MBTI, I fall under the ISFP type: Introverted, Sensing, Feeling, Perceiving. ISFPs are often described as gentle and introspective, living in the present moment with a deep appreciation for beauty and authenticity. The Pros and Cons of Being an ISFP One aspect of being an ISFP is a...
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